but i have no partner. no one at all.
1. Accepting Life’s Challenges
“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”
In every life there are great challenges, and in every challenge there are great doses of life to be lived.
Whether you judge a challenge to be a problem or an opportunity says more about you than about the challenge itself. The way you choose to see the world is the way your world will be. This is what gives life its magic; it’s a continuous, dynamic phenomenon that becomes exactly what you choose to make it.
Do something extraordinary. Accept life’s opportunities. Realize that if you never step up to a challenge that’s a bit over your head, you’ll never know how tall you truly are. Rise to each challenge and continue adding value to the ever-growing possibilities that await your brilliance.
2. Working Hard
“There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.” –Beverly Sills
When you’re young you have this fantasy that super successful adults – writers, musicians, doctors, businessmen, etc. – have some kind of magical chest of tools allowing them to build masterpieces that are larger than life. You fanaticize about a hammer of creativity, a pliers of efficiency, a saw of wisdom, and so on and so forth.
But then you grow up and you realize, for the most part, everyone is working with the same set of imperfect, rusty, old tools – desire, commitment, honesty, kindness, love, persistence, etc. And as flawed and bent as they may be, they work wonders against the odds when you truly put them to the test.
3. Choosing Wisely
“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” –J.K. Rowling
The universe – people, books, life experience, etc. – can only give you good advice, but you ultimately decide what to do with it.
Life is ticking away every second. The worst thing is spending your entire life drowning slowly and not being able to convince yourself that you are in full control, and that you can easily save yourself by simply standing up.
This is your life, made up entirely of your choices, your actions, your thoughts, your relationships, etc. Someday you will either decide to save yourself or remain unsaved forever.
When we are faced with our love interest, our body goes into red alert, kicking adrenaline production into full gear. One of the results of that is a rapid heartbeat, that little flutter you feel. This is probably in order to give us a jumpstart to go over to talk to him or her!
Unfortunately, another effect of all of that adrenaline is profuse sweating, especially, it seems, on our palms. This side effect is a bit counterproductive, as it can be pretty embarrassing.
Studies have shown that men tend to lower their voices when they talk to someone they love or are attracted to, while women may raise the tone of their voices.
The same adrenaline that is responsible for a rapid heartbeat and sweaty palms also causes our pupils to dilate. This signals sexual attraction, and on a subconscious level, we find that attractive in a sexual partner.
When you are in love, you usually feel euphoric, and that isn’t just because you are happy — it’s chemical. When you are in love, your brain produces extra dopamine, the same chemical it releases when you have taken a drug, such as cocaine. No wonder falling in love makes you feel so giddy, light-headed and downright manic!
When we are with the one we love, we tend to mimic their behavior. For example, if they cross their legs, we will cross ours. This all happens on a subconscious level, of course. Also subconsciously, the other partner will find this copycat behavior very attractive.
Humans generally blush for one of two reasons, embarrassment or sexual arousal; and when we are in love, we can certainly feel both of those at the same time!
That adrenaline seems to be the culprit in all things love. In addition to its other side effects, adrenaline also shunts blood away from things like our stomach and to things like our muscles. This is so that we are prepared to run away (or toward as the case may be) if we need to. This transfer of blood is what makes us feel like there are butterflies in our stomach. It is also the cause of the reduced appetite that many of the newly in love experience.